Post #2539322

2026-05-14 21:32 UTC

honestly still a bit upset - not about the misscommunication itself but about the reaction to it I had to argue against the idea that I'm just incapable of remembering what we agreed on. I'm not that unreliable and I thought my friends would know that and not just assume otherwise. The reaction was "that's online, what are you doing here? Getting that wrong is silly of you but no big deal :D" instead of "oh, did we not talk about whether this would be in person or online?" I just don't like that the first assumption was that I made a mistake (which is entirely possible and if I did it might have been a different story but that wasn't the case so I just got wrongly accused of not reading texts properly). Which felt extra bad because I EVEN TRIED TO ASK AFTER DOUBLE CHECKING THAT IT WASN'T MENTIONED... Maybe start with "how did this happen?" instead of "You got that wrong, but no big deal"?

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@phoenixgreif@queer.group 2026-05-14 21:44

This whole lack of information before made me very anxious and then I got blamed for the exact lack of knowledge that made me anxious. So now I'm still anxious because I feel like I'm going to get blamed for things I didn't even know were happening. I may be ignoring a trigger right now, this shit runs deep. I'm not okay, I have to make myself be okay soon and even just thinking about being there again on Saturday is making me tense up. They didn't really do anything other than not wanting to feel responsible for me wasting my time - which is an understandable instinct to have - but I feel like the trust I had started to build has just been ripped out for no reason. Welp. Probably won't seem nearly as dramatic after a solid night of sleep, I just need to get myself to do that now.

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