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2026-05-03 23:13 UTC

Growing up, that whole stereotype was actually accurate in my class at least, which of course caused me to also believe it was this way until later in life. Girls here would at most play sims. Most boys would play various iterations of Need for Speed, Runescape and Counter Strike (1.6 of course), with the nerdier ones (me included) playing a bunch of other things too. Pretty much every boy played something. I've since gotten to know several gamer girls, but literally all of them from other towns in my later life, none from my old school days. Which makes me think there was some localized girl gamer shaming going on, but I'm not sure it was from the boys in this case, it always felt like some of the more popular girls in school saw gaming as something infantile and therefore their clique just didn't do it, or didn't talk about it. Wouldn't be surprised if some of the more quiet girls played a bunch of vidya and just never talked about it though.

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@anna@retrofed.com 2026-05-03 23:25

Perhaps they just did not share their hobbies and interests with you at the time. Were any of them actually close friends with you? None of the girls and women I know who are into gaming are really 'obvious' about it to strangers, partly because of the stigma and the resulting interactions you'd get, and partly because there just isn't too much to talk about that you can't already talk about online in your communities. Especially if most reactions to your gaming hobby you'd get from boys would be ridicule, weird creepiness and/or condescension. We usually kept it to ourselves. Besides, if they played games like The Sims, it's pretty obvious they were *really* into gaming. Sims is an incredibly complex and time-consuming hobby for most people – modding, worldbuilding projects, family legacies that take hundreds of hours of playtime. I know not a single Sims-playing woman who is not at least temporarily obsessed with that game, hasn't modded it to shreds and hasn't spent a three-digit amount of money on its expansions. I'd say that the average Need for Speed gamer is a much more casual gamer than a Sims player. But because the latter are mostly women, we were treated with the same condescending "it's a kid's toy" type attitude boys actually thought *we* had toward their games.

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