Post #2389511

2026-05-11 09:57 UTC

@IngaLovinde@embracing.space @Mimesatwork@wandering.shop @butchrobot@shork.nerdmusic.net i GENUINELY NEVER THOUGHT anyone would even actually contemplate that without immediate dismissal but it really does seem to make FAR TOO MUCH SENSE TO ME and most people will consider you literally genuinely insane for so much as considering it, let alone making it a public discussion i dont see most other animal building rooms to hide where they fuck. in fact, they probably fuck LESS where they sleep than ANYWHERE ELSE. i'm no animal expert, so this isn't an "expert opinion" in any sense, but it's just a pattern i feel like i'm aware of. and why WOULD they? sex is a thing LITERALLY (almost) EVERYONE EVER will fucking do, and is something so biologically basic and fundamental that i can't fathom the shame people have surrounding it. kink as a whole is an INCREDIBLY healthy way of engaging with your identity, or with trauma, or with a multitude of things, and it's almost consistently a universally life-changing experience to be able to express one's self openly in that way it is INCREDIBLY common alone for people to want to see others and/or be seen by others, having sex, EVEN by those who have been forced into viewing sex with aggressive shame- so you then have to consider WHY said people are "shaming themselves" into repressing things for no reason, instead of creating spaces where that behaviour IS accepted at which point you have to consider the part that sexual repression and frustration and isolation play in the current fascist-capitalist hellscape we live in and the greater concept of a self-sustaining patriarchy

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@buncube@transfem.social 2026-05-11 10:13

@IngaLovinde@embracing.space @Mimesatwork@wandering.shop @butchrobot@shork.nerdmusic.net BASICALLY EXHIBITIONISM IS ANARCHIST PRAXIS AND I AM SCREAMING. Jokes aside, a lot of people would deadass lynch you for it being a "threat to children" or intent to groom, but let me fucking ask them this; IF THE PEOPLE THAT FUCKING GROOMED ME WHEN I WAS FIFTEEN COULD HAVE JUST GONE SOMEWHERE AND ACTUALLY FUCKED, WHO WOULD HAVE BEEN THERE TO GROOM ME? a majority of sexual abuse and harrassment on the internet comes as a result of deep and violent sexual repression, and i have personal experience with that fact, both as a victim, and as someone who hurt others myself as a result the amount of times others, and in the end myself, talked about increasingly consequential and increasingly dangerous and reprehensible things being "hotter" because there was no healthier outlet, was, and continues to be disturbing. that's often WHY teenagers end up victimised anyway- because it's "wrong", because they're expected not to, because it gives the other party power to express themselves without contest, without responsibility i was hurt, and hurt people, because my confusion and fear was channelled by the internet into that behavior, because i was repressed and confused and didn't understand the way i felt and didn't understand my own gender and didn't feel safe irl. if i knew what being trans was because of real-world education, i and others would have been spared. if others didn't judge what being trans was because of real-world education, i and others would have been spared. IF THE OTHERS ONLINE HAD A PUBLIC SPACE TO JUST GO FUCK, I WOULD HAVE BEEN SPARED. the reason i mention all of those things? well, because the throughline there is "things people will say you're a pedophile for endorsing"

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@IngaLovinde@embracing.space 2026-05-11 12:40

@buncube@transfem.social @Mimesatwork@wandering.shop @butchrobot@shork.nerdmusic.net uhh that's not what I meant 😅 what I was talking about was more like, people who don't have private housing and don't have enough money on hotels etc need alternative free places to fuck (in privacy). Kinda like we have with public toilets. But also I don't disagree with what you're saying, with one caveat that of course this has to be consensual for everybody including those who see it (because unfortunately I've seen it on fedi more than once that people talk about having sex in public spaces, _flaunting_ that unwilling unexpecting bystanders witnessed it). Incidentally I recently read a really good book, "The Thick and the Lean" by Chana Porter, where one of the main premises is "what if there was a society just like ours but where sex is considered to be as mundane as eating is in ours, and where eating is considered to be as taboo as sex in ours?" And also to expand on this, I'm currently lucky to live in a country where unclothed bodies are accepted in dedicated spaces (including some beaches and some lawns), and I think this does wonders for body positivity, because instead of only seeing unhealthy photoshopped images in glossy magazines, people can see actual bodies the way they are in all their diversity. Unfortunately even in this country the practice was slowly dying out in the last decades, I wish it expanded more instead. And I wonder how life would be if there was a similar approach to sex.

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