Post #2389512

2026-05-11 10:13 UTC

@IngaLovinde@embracing.space @Mimesatwork@wandering.shop @butchrobot@shork.nerdmusic.net BASICALLY EXHIBITIONISM IS ANARCHIST PRAXIS AND I AM SCREAMING. Jokes aside, a lot of people would deadass lynch you for it being a "threat to children" or intent to groom, but let me fucking ask them this; IF THE PEOPLE THAT FUCKING GROOMED ME WHEN I WAS FIFTEEN COULD HAVE JUST GONE SOMEWHERE AND ACTUALLY FUCKED, WHO WOULD HAVE BEEN THERE TO GROOM ME? a majority of sexual abuse and harrassment on the internet comes as a result of deep and violent sexual repression, and i have personal experience with that fact, both as a victim, and as someone who hurt others myself as a result the amount of times others, and in the end myself, talked about increasingly consequential and increasingly dangerous and reprehensible things being "hotter" because there was no healthier outlet, was, and continues to be disturbing. that's often WHY teenagers end up victimised anyway- because it's "wrong", because they're expected not to, because it gives the other party power to express themselves without contest, without responsibility i was hurt, and hurt people, because my confusion and fear was channelled by the internet into that behavior, because i was repressed and confused and didn't understand the way i felt and didn't understand my own gender and didn't feel safe irl. if i knew what being trans was because of real-world education, i and others would have been spared. if others didn't judge what being trans was because of real-world education, i and others would have been spared. IF THE OTHERS ONLINE HAD A PUBLIC SPACE TO JUST GO FUCK, I WOULD HAVE BEEN SPARED. the reason i mention all of those things? well, because the throughline there is "things people will say you're a pedophile for endorsing"

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@IngaLovinde@embracing.space 2026-05-11 12:50

@buncube@transfem.social @Mimesatwork@wandering.shop @butchrobot@shork.nerdmusic.net my (probably considered to be problematic; and I really hope that fragments of this post won't get quoted out of context; I didn't put hours of thought into each sentence here, so some of them might be badly worded and I guess misinterpreted in bad faith) opinion about CSA is that CSA is only such a big thing in our society because sex is such a big and separate and taboo thing in our society. Sex work is work, and similarly, child sexual abuse could be said to be just a child abuse. It's only because sex is considered to be such a special thing, that child sexual abuse gets disproportionate amount of attention (with it being used to introduce all kinds of surveillance for everybody for example), while all the other child abuse gets almost no attention at all. And yes, children are hugely traumatized by sexual abuse (compared to other forms of abuse), but how much of that difference is caused by our society telling them that sex is such a special thing that they should feel traumatized in a very special way by this specific form of abuse? (Both explicitly and implicitly, by subjecting victims of CSA to all the experiences they have to face after the fact of CSA). And also, yes, perhaps if sex was considered to be just an activity (although more intimate than many other activities), then a lot less people would be willing to abuse children in this specific way, because it just would not be The Thing.

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