I hear there are women out there who are attracted to disappointment

Oh God. that is my husband in a nutshell. When he started to cook, (I can burn water.. ugh) he was so earnest and flopped many times.. (among the notables were a mushroom velvet that turned into liquid potting soil, apple-salt loaf, eggs bhopal, onions napalm, chicken hiroshima..) It's sweet and I love him to bits because at least he tried and when he finally got it.. Dayummm!!!

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@RBWells@lemmy.world 2026-05-04 21:14

Maybe they want to be the competent one, but I can also see the appeal in someone who is comfortable with who they are and happy to try things they aren't good at. Personally I find competence in something hot, I love when guys are good at doing something. But nobody is good at everything and willingness to step out of your comfort zone is also hot.

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@ivan@piefed.social 2026-05-04 15:22

I have a friend like that who'll be looking at guy and thinking "wow, what a loser... I want to embrace him so bad". I'd identify her as "pitysexual". 🌚

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@danekrae@lemmy.world 2026-05-04 17:25

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@SnoringEarthworm@sh.itjust.works 2026-05-04 20:05

Is there a pattern to people like this? Sure, love is blind and different people have different reasons, but it'd be really interesting to find out there also happens to be a "bang-the-pathetic-one" gene.

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@REDACTED@infosec.pub 2026-05-04 15:20

To be fair there are even more men who are afraid of women looking more successful than them, but I'mm sure that's different ballpark

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@sundray@lemmus.org 2026-05-04 20:51

Louis Tully was cute as a button!

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