Post #1818814

2025-07-02 18:44 UTC

Today we covered "social network", which was mostly comprised of me listing out the notable people in my life and what my relationship with each person is like. I don't understand the point, but it was much easier to talk about than some of the other subjects. Next up we will talk about "resilience" and "psychosexual development". The person I'm working with had never mentioned the latter until today, so I don't know if this was always part of the plan or if it was slipped in because of something I did/didn't say. I've got a check-in appointment with the main person's boss next week to ask how things are going, and the week after that we're back to our typical itinerary. I am getting really impatient with all of this. If my savings account was larger I'd consider just skipping this, going to Spain, and paying myself :/

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@pixiesnoot@transfem.social 2025-07-30 11:58

A couple weeks ago I had an appointment on "psychosexual development" which included delightful questions such as "when did you start masturbating" and "do you penetrate your wife during sex". These are totally things that are easy to talk with a stranger about and medically necessary to go over /s Today we had an "evaluation" which was just an appointment to go over what we've covered so far, which imo is a complete waste of time. Oh and I now have more appointments scheduled with them through the end of October, which is far longer than I thought I'd have to put up with this. I was also told to expect the waiting times I see on Radboud's website (the hospital) to be longer than the website claims. I'm growing really frustrated at how long, invasive, and degrading this whole process is. This isn't an acceptable thing to put people through, especially when countries where informed consent is widespread still have regret rates at or under 1% for transfem vaginoplasty operations. I now have a free consultation scheduled with a surgeon in Barcelona in October, who doesn't require any of this bullshit and could schedule me for early next year. The only downside is I'd need to find 20,000 euros for him. I've got a 401k in the US I've been meaning to empty (since I'm never moving back there), but I'll need to start saving pretty aggressively if I want to go that route. In the meantime, my next appointment with the gatekeeper here is next week, where we'll continue psychosexual development and maybe start talking about "resilience"

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