Post #1565141
2026-03-29 21:52 UTC
There are several challenges to this strategy. One common reaction is that the person doing the scapegoating will backpedal too fast and pretend there's no problem. Pass it off as a joke - there are many ways. If you want to uproot the scapegoating, don't accept this compliant behavior and demonstratively take the person more seriously than they now do themself. Confirm that you heard them say there's really a problem here and you're curious to hear more, because you might be part of the problem
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@malte@radikal.social 2026-03-29 21:55
Another common reaction, which is another way to avoid the confrontation (and scapegoating is itself a kind of conflict avoidance) is that the person will not accept that what they complained about has anything to do about you. "You're not that kind of person!" they'll say. Here it really is important that you did your work and actually found a part of yourself that can identify with the scapegoat and didn't jump in too fast. (If you went in like that, the whole thing will backfire now).