Post #1519024

2026-04-21 22:21 UTC

I try to use gender neutral language in general until I know better. I will use they/them by default, and use collective words like “folks” that don’t indicate gender. This only ever pisses off bigots.

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@SolarMonkey@slrpnk.net 2026-04-21 22:59

I think I might start trying to do this. I recently met a group of people who are close friends with my close friend, and the majority of them did not identify with the pronouns I’m accustomed to assigning based on sight/presentation. And it was challenging to give the level of respect I wanted to, because habits are strong. I’ve met transpeople numerous times in the past, but they all identified one way or another, so that was pretty easy to respect. NB/agender is MUCH harder to get used to. So I think thats going to be my new holy grail; treat everyone as a default human until they tell me they prefer something else.

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@panda_abyss@lemmy.ca 2026-04-22 12:51

I call my spouse my partner for similar reasons. If it helps normalize it then at least I’m doing something incredibly small to help people who might face discrimination.

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