Post #1507709

2026-04-21 08:52 UTC

@stevegis_ssg How do you do that for people who are "allergic" to being praised, i.e. always respond with all the ways in which they think they are not awesome, tell you all the mistakes they did etc.? I always try to exactly point out in which respect their work was exceptional, and that this was really not "normal", but I don't feel like it works.

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@astronot@mastodon.online 2026-04-21 14:29

@ditsch42 @stevegis_ssg from personal experience, i don't like to be praised because growing up safety came from being forgotten. I also down play my role and push back on recognition. However... I'm also very aware when my boss isn't recognizing my work, and I exit jobs when my contributions aren't recognized. Catch 22 I know. I prefer a private word in a 1:1 setting and i now know to make those preferences clear to my boss. As a boss myself, I ask people how they want to be recognized.

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@stevegis_ssg@mas.to 2026-04-21 14:48

@ditsch42 I don't have "management expertise" but I can certainly say that, as a person who responds to all praise by cataloguing my faults, I still secretly treasure it and store up the memories to replay later.

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@coolcalmcollected@mastodon.social 2026-04-21 16:51

@ditsch42 @stevegis_ssg as an autistic person - praise is bait. so many times we are lured into thinking someone appreciates our contributions only to find out they were mining us for information to use against us. just keep telling everyone when they've done good work. they'll either believe/trust you or they won't. there's nothing you can do about that. it's still uplifting to hear it even if we're suspicious.

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