Post #1236482

2026-03-27 10:43 UTC

I don't generally "feel like a woman". I feel like me. But, like, do you understand that for decades before I transitioned I was fantasising about, pining for, the idea of having a female body, of being recognised as a woman, going thru life as one? I tried to stoically accept that I was a man, I tried to embrace non-traditional masculinity, I tried everything to make this need go away. It didn't. So I have to conclude, this is something real. 3/

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@Tattie@eldritch.cafe 2026-03-27 10:48

And then, having run out of other options, I finally tried the things I had ruled out previously as too scary, the things that would bring judgment down on me. I tried transition. Tho at the time I hadn't even realised myself as a woman. I was shit scared. I did it anyway. 4/

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@eliza@chaosfem.tw 2026-03-27 10:44

@Tattie I completely agree. I feel like me now too

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@rpbook@gts.phillipsuk.org 2026-03-28 09:43

@Tattie when I was 18 I read the Dune books. The face dancers led me to think seriously about how it would feel to have a female body instead of a male one. I thought it would be awesome to be able to change my body type. I was vaguely aware of trans people, but had no interest in being a woman. I just wanted to be able to have a female body sometimes. Thirty years later, I realised I'm non-binary. It would have saved me a lot of grief if I'd realised as a teenager, but the concept was unheard of (at least in my world) in the late 1980s. All of which is to agree with you, and add that representation is important.

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@saxifraga@lgbtqia.space 2026-03-28 10:00

@Tattie thank you for this, being so open - eloquently put. Following on from some of the other cis commenters, I also found it difficult to understand how it may feel to be in the wrong body - however, since I started advocating for the whole LGBTQIA+ community in my industry, I’ve come to my own understanding through my experiences, conversations and simply listening to lived experiences. I see trans people and celebrate you all.

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