Mom at least cares about us. Dad on the other hand, we're not so sure. So we seek his approval hoping he might come around to caring more. When we're down, we seek Mom. When we're up, we seek Dad's validation. The male gets mythologized and idolized. The female gets associated with helping us through the messy realities of life - something to avoid to prove you are a big boy/girl now. 4/8