@batchofcookies@mastodon.social @rey@toot.cat @pyoor@lgbtqia.space Bob, this sort of transphobia is so hurtful to see, especially couched in superficially humble and "seeking understanding" language. . Think about it - did we let you choose to go through male puberty at 13? What if you changed your mind? Should we have let you date at 18? What if you were gay and should have been dating a different gender? Should we let you marry at 21? Or should we be worried about you making such an important life-altering decision, with difficult physical, emotional, and legal implications if you change your mind? The reason that I'm calling this transphobia is because you have raised the epistemic bar so high as to be ridiculous, when in virtually any other decision about your own life you would never require such overwhelming amount of evidentiary warrant - you'd just let the cisgender heterosexuals do their thing . Please try to do better because what you're saying is really harmful, especially on such an important day like Trans Day of Remembrance.