Elephant brain, please help: I remember one of the queerfeminist scifi authors I like having said something along the lines of: "Whatever I write, I will never write about queermisiac violence. I want my readers to feel safe that I'm not going to hurt them like that." It was in a podcast or a panel talk, and most probably Annalee Newitz, Becky Chambers, or Martha Wells. Does someone know for sure?