當你和別人有一樣的經歷 文明人：You are not alone. We've all been through this so we totally get it. Don't blame yourself. 老中：別人也這樣怎麼別人都能行就你不行？ 當你的經歷很特殊 文明人：Everyone is different. You are going through an especially difficult time so you need extra care and help. Don't be a shamed of it. 老中：別人都沒這毛病怎麼就你有？