@Thorn@toot.garden yeh, I was just starting to understand this apparent contradiction myself. I realised it is very much about listening to my body, feelings etc and hearing them screaming no and not ignoring that. I set boundaries and people do not like them. I choose those who are ok with me as I am and accept my needs. Someone posted and image a day or so ago about unmasking, a bunch of words connected by a wiggly line. That was good too. Wish I'd bookmarked it so am bookmarking this video. Thanks.