Post #872514
2026-03-29 21:44 UTC
Last year I learned a rule that I am grateful to have in my life now. Whenever you observe someone scapegoating someone else (that is usually not there, so they can go on and ridicule and complain about them without their direct presence), the simple thing to do is to take a moment and find that part of yourself that can identify with the scapegoat and then offer it up for direct confrontation.
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@malte@radikal.social 2026-03-29 21:48
The person doing the scapegoating now has to articulate their dissatisfaction towards that part of you, that they see as the problem. The immediate effect is usually that the person doing the scapegoating gets slightly disarmed - it gets rid of most of the sadistic and unreasonable side to their complaining. But more interestingly, both parties now have an opportunity to explore the problem, because it is right there in the room - the part of you that identifies with the scapegoat!