@njion there's this psychology in a lot of normal people where it makes them irrationally upset to have their accepted basis of reality challenged, and i think that's why a lot of them struggle with gender freedom. heteronormative gender norms are incredibly limiting to them, but they're also a cornerstone of their accepted reality, a root node on the decision tree of whether something is proper or improper to do. some people feel liberated when they find out they don't have to live that way, while others seem to really hang on to those norms, like they wouldn't know how to perceive reality without them. strange human behavior