Post #772537

I saw a post, since deleted, where one of the many wonderful people on here was trying to argue that since their trauma wasn't from physical or sexual abuse, it "wasn't that bad" and "shouldn't have fucked them up that much" (as a general attitude). And like as someone who's had those forms of abuse that are typically seen as more extreme, like, yeah, the extreme stuff fucked me up, but there was also a lot of stuff generally viewed as more minor, but repeated a lot, that fucked me up. Personally, I found that some of the bullying I experienced as a kid was worse than the CSA, despite the bullying not seeming *that* extreme. All of which is to say, don't expect society's views on "how bad" certain things are to exactly match with how much they hurt you, and please try and not compare yourself to others as a way to invalidate your own feelings. Also note that repeated mildly bad events can be worse than single really bad events. Your pain is a reasonable response to what you went through, and if it hurt you it's bad, even if it doesn't seem "bad enough" by some arbitrary standard.