@njion When i figured out my sexuality it was like this unlocked for me. Before that i would try to conform to what a heterosexual man was "supposed" to be. Then i realised, "hang on, i'm not one. i can just do what i want". And this unlocked stuff like browsing through the "women's" shirts section at the second hand store. They are so light and comfortable and have pretty pattern with flowers and stuff while "men's" shirts mostly have graph paper patterns in boring colors.