Post #64152

2025-12-15 00:09 UTC

Hi, I promise I have no unethical intentions with this post. And forgive the cheesy stock photo; I wasn’t sure what to put there. Avoiding specifics, a friend of mine has a physically-distant, yet emotionally-close, family member go silent for no apparent reason. This person has a history of mental illness and dissapearing from time to time, but it’s been a year, and my friend is worried. The family member doesn’t have much of a social media presence, and we don’t know anyone who could check on them in-person. Right now I only know their name and a vague idea of their location (which is in the United States). Here’s my question (and some followup questions): How can I find any information about their existence online? Are there any public government records I could search through? I know there’s a ton of advertising data collected by phones somewhere out there. Could that be useful in some way?

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@hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.world 2025-12-15 00:14

My first thought is contact police because only they have the resources to start an investigation, looking into phone data and thoroughly searching. My second thought is if you know someone with knowledge or if you have time to read up on OSINT skills, these could help if you need to do your own search. Maybe someone has better ideas though.

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@solrize@lemmy.ml 2025-12-15 00:42

If none of the online and similar stuff works, it might be time for the family to file a missing person report. See en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Philip_Agre about a guy who disappeared like that. He was eventually confirmed to be ok, but had apparently decided to go off the map for personal reasons. There was also a medical researcher whose name I’ve forgotten, who also went dark iike that. Her family eventually found her and she said oh, she hadn’t been up to much, and just didn’t realize anyone that was looking for her. She did some well known work connecting allergies with cancer but I haven’t been able to identify her through a few web searches. Anyone remember?

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@Dalacos@lemmy.world 2025-12-15 05:29

Depending on how serious you are (but maybe not “police” serious) and also your financial situation, this is the kind of stuff a Private Investigator can do.

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