POV: You have a spray bottle next to the bed
2026-08-02 14:40 UTC
Replies (7)
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@sunbrrnslapper@lemmy.world 2026-08-02 15:06
I’m old, so this type of behavior is super normalized in my brain. But! I am so glad the next generation is pushing back on this type of thing - it makes me so happy to see the progress.
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@CultLeader4Hire@lemmy.world 2026-08-02 16:56
And if you point it out he just says “no I’m not” and that’s the end conversation cause you’ll get more of the same for dating to speak up about it.
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@Arcanepotato@crazypeople.online 2026-08-02 17:01
I wish people talked about sex more. Not with me lol, but with each other. And that more cishet couples knew more about different types of sexual activities beyond PiV (porn style oral doesn’t count unless you like it I guess?) While of course it’s okay to not want to have sex, wonder how much the sex being awful has to do with it. Or the thought that sex means your partner is doing stuff to you. I hope for better for the future 💕
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@LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone 2026-08-02 15:52
Yep! Most women I know in long term relationships with men consider sex a chore a lot of the time. And that’s with good men. We shouldn’t have to do this
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@Beebabe@lemmy.world 2026-08-02 19:42
Oh yes when I was married I often did it so my ex would stop pouting and sulking and treat me like a human again for 2-3 days. I’m glad people are starting to put this into words and no longer tolerating it.
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@Katrisia@lemmy.today 2026-08-03 14:26
But I was wasting his youth and sexual vigour…! (Turns out I wasn’t because he was cheating anyway).
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@greatwhitebuffalo41@slrpnk.net 2026-08-04 01:44
I just want to take a moment to say, this goes both ways. Which, I’m assuming we are all aware of. I’m only bringing it up because it took me a long time to realize I was the toxic one in my first long term relationship. Turns out being raised by a narcassist means you have to do a lot of hard work. Consent is only consent if it’s continuous and enthusiastic. I was unfortunately told my entire life that “all men want is sex” or some version of that. So when I was told he wasn’t in the mood, I tried harder. Because per my incorrect thought process, all men always want sex no exceptions. So if he didn’t, I was clearly doing something wrong. Anyways, thanks for letting me process that out loud. Therapy has been really fun the last few years 🙃 sorry to derail lol.