Post #3903739

2026-07-17 16:02 UTC

I don't know why I'm noticing this more lately, but all the memes about "white man energy" confidence/perceived-importance really are on point. I keep finding myself in situations where women are in charge, I really could not *possibly* be authoritative, and yet--without me saying a word, and despite nobody present knowing who I am--my mere white, male, and grey-bearded presence pulls focus from the women it should rightfully be on. Pay more attention to women, y'all. Please.

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@feoh@oldbytes.space 2026-07-17 16:18

@jimsalter@fosstodon.org Jesus Effing Christ on an Atomic Pogo Stick yes THIS so much this. Let me tell you about EVERY FSCKING TIME we go to the car dealership together. As we've discussed in the past I am partially blind and can't (and may never be able to) drive. She's the driver. SHE'S the car owner. I am merely a grateful passenger. BUT EVERY SINGLE TIME the dealership drones will FORCEFULLY engage with me and ignore her, despite my consistently intoning: "Please talk to her. She owns the car. i can't drive." SO VERY INCREDIBLY sick of this. Partly because it makes me ill every time it happens. It's one thing to know that you inhabit one hell of a circle of privilege on an intellectual level, but watching someone you love more than life itself get just UTTERLY snubbed and ignored a whole lot hurts like hell. Humans suck. Part 9999.

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