Post #3757499

2026-07-12 08:26 UTC

Around 2019 I had a pretty bad breakup. I've lost someone dear to me and trauma bonded with my then current gf. I'd say she's a good person. Nice to everyone so much so that she kisses and hugs her drunk friend when they go out drinking and she feels sad. I was never against it that 2 or more girls have fun. I don't care if she'd even have slept with her friend. It's not my business tbh and as long as she's happy and I know that she's a people pleaser it would've been OK. But what wasn't okay (and tbh it's not her fault) was the trauma dumping. I loved being with her, her smile and red hair on her pale skin looked really great. Sex with her was great. I loved how we shared a lot of hobbies and I could really appreciate how independent she was as a person from me. She changed when she started uni her being alone and our relationship being long-distance turned out to be a nightmare. And sadly I'm a people pleaser as well. I could handle the trauma about her being lonely and feeling inadequate for a time. But I knew this wouldn't work. 4 months of trauma-dumping, doing my best to cheer her up and then having to deal with that again was the limit for me. It was really hard to say goodbye to someone who needs you but I didn't until she started seeing a therapist. And then I'd slowly fade from her life. I can't blame anybody here but myself. Then a couple of months passed corona happened and I got to talk with the trans woman who helped me back then again (1/?)

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@neku@woof.tech 2026-07-12 08:38

for those who don't know I wasn't always someone who knew about trans* people and societal issues. And she really helped me to open up and pretty much helped me to accept myself as a bi man. I talked to her for hours during the rona time while I was taking walks. And while I accepted being bi I wasn't really comfortable about opening up sexually. And she somehow made me say it that I finally want to see someone else no matter what the person has between her legs. I downloaded Taimi back then and for my surprise I had a lot of likes back then (even tho I'm not conventionally attractive) from trans women. It felt great to feel appreciated and I won't lie that was quite an ego boost. To keep it short and stop my boasting I got together with a trans woman who was still fresh into her transition. And while this was also a long-distance relationship we could see each other more often because she got quite near to me because of work and we could meet up in her hotel...and boy did we do meet up there. I wanna be real with you she was horny and I was a horny young person. We had the same interests sexually and we both played the same games. So it was a great match. The first time will always be a good memory for me. I went in and we talked about many different things how she felt and if she's okay with what will come now. After I saw smile and say yes it was over for me (2/?) (I have some things to do and will continue this later)

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