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you know, i experienced "the trans community" when everyone was a lot more obsessed with passing and voice training and conventionally attractive cis role models and it was fucking miserable. i feel like i've done pretty okay-ish by now, but i still get misgendered even without speaking quite regularly. and... whatever, i don't exist for those people's aesthetic sensibilities. does it bother me sometimes? sure. is it healthy to obsess beyond the point you can affect it? nope. i’d much rather be surrounded by a bunch of faggots that exist unapologetically and perform their own version of gender than stress about fitting into the preconceptions of gender illiterate people to not get called a man or whatever. it has become much less important in my life.