Post #3505001

2026-07-01 05:49 UTC

I was asked the same thing by the professor who I had to see to get a referral to a gender clinic. It’s policy if you have a diagnosis. Found out later that this clown had been instrumental in creating trans care policy in this country. He suggested that the reason for me “thinking I was trans” was that I couldn’t handle being gay and had to become a woman to legitimize being with men. Transitioning obviously being the easier option since us trans girls are so universally loved and respected. In the second meeting we had I pointed to my genitals and said that these have to go. Dude looked super annoyed but that was it, the meeting was over and I got my referral.

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@Grail@multiverse.soulism.net 2026-07-01 06:59

I wrote a fucking poem to deal with this kinda shit. Let’s see if I can find it…

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@NightFantom@slrpnk.net 2026-07-01 07:03

Transitioning obviously being the easier option since us trans girls are so universally loved and respected. I can get it on some level, growing up surrounded by homophobia (but not transphobia as your parents never even heard of the concept), so being gay is bad and I’m not bad so I can’t be gay. Then discovering the concept of transness, seeing it as an “out”, proving that you weren’t bad, there was a third option, so this must be real. Psychologically this is valid, and I can imagine a psychologist coming from a good place trying to figure you out entirely before assigning a label that could result in more issues (like you said, it ain’t easy being trans). Of course he could be a trans denying asshole too, that’s hard to tell from text. And there’s obviously better phrasing to explore the possibility of you being gay instead of trans In the second meeting we had I pointed to my genitals and said that these have to go. Dude looked super annoyed but that was it, the meeting was over and I got my referral. That sounds like the exact thing you should do, that’s not something that can be denied (maliciously or otherwise) through internalized homophobia.

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@WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today 2026-07-01 17:46

Fairly sure if I was transgender, I would still be Lesbian, due to well, being brought up to see men as gross. Also, men kind of are gross, women are too, but to a lesser degree. Hairs and smelly sweat are gross, and the man smell too, that’s the reason one woman is actually lesbian on here I hear. Is it just me? Not that it matters, since I can’t smell either most of the time.

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