Post #3351604

2026-06-10 21:41 UTC

This reminds me of when I was a teenager, spending time chatting with multiple people simultaneously on MSN Messenger and AIM (man, how did I manage that?) There were some people who'd just say, "I'm bored." That's it. I never knew how to respond. I usually said something like, "Oh, that sucks." But their conversations never went anywhere besides complaining about boredom, so I usually stopped talking pretty quick. I get the impression they were just looking to have me entertain them somehow, despite putting no effort into making it worth my while. Bruh, I'm having three other conversations about fascinating topics, catching up with a friend living in another continent, and participating in a group RPG, all without anybody whining that they can't think of something to do. Step up or step out, your boredom isn't my problem.

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@jtrek@startrek.website 2026-06-10 22:11

A lot of people seem to engage with dating with that same energy. You match, they write "hey", and then wait for you to entertain them. A lot of social things are garbage-in, garbage-out.

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@captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2026-06-11 14:37

A huge portion of the apps is just that. And I get it it's awkward and it can be boring having the same conversation over and over. I sometimes am guilty of it too. But I suspect a lot of people don't really actively engage with stuff enough to be able to be interesting. I've seen people blame consumptive hobbies (as opposed to productive ones), but hell tell me about the TV show you've been watching or the video game you've been playing. If you're consuming it in a critical manner you can say "well I really like what they did with the villain here, it really touches on the theme of [x], though I think sometimes the messaging is inconsistent". Or "Oh yeah I really love these mechanics, it's been fun watching the series evolve". Fucking hell tell me what you think about a YouTube video you recently watched. I think some people basically disassociate into entertainment. But yeah chatting without a prompt can be difficult, especially when not face to face. Getting to face to face relatively quickly is something I generally recommend people do while on the apps to minimize it. But also like, actually interact with life and the other person.

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@GrindingGears@lemmy.ca 2026-06-11 18:19

I don't think this would be the same as that. It's one step before that. It's basically like saying I'm looking at this persons status and name, and making broad assumptions without ever actually talking with them in any sort of detail. Now if they went on the date and then the person was using chat gpt or whatever for everything, or using it constantly, well then yeah that would be pretty dumb and a bit more tantamount to your example.

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@Lojcs@piefed.social 2026-06-11 07:01

Sorry but you seem to be arrogant about how sociable other people naturally are. Good for you if you had many friends to do interesting things with and never felt bored, but I find it hurtful that you think not having those traits is to be shunned. You don't owe internet strangers entertainment, but is it such a crime that you need to rant about it decades after the fact? Edit: Wording

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@shalafi@lemmy.world 2026-06-10 22:50

That's all quite different. Been there done that, dropped out. But judging someone over a petty thing like this is petty in itself. Maybe he's not even a fan of AI, just thought it would be a cute idea to fly by her. Had I received an info sheet on my wife's background and beliefs, I would never had responded to her.

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