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< Trevor > I think the problem with constantly being in shitty situations is that it colors your expectations for things to be shitty, and while it's totally reasonable for someone to expect life to carry on much as it has before (especially if the shitty situations are caused by factors like marginalization or poverty), and therefore expect things to constantly be shitty, they have to understand that expecting things to be constantly shitty all the time no matter what with no exceptions IS a cognitive distortion, one that is very easy to fall into, and lends to negativity that isn't good for them. I say this as someone who used to have this problem, but it is VERY hard to tell people that, even though their negativity is caused by legitimate factors from their actual life, it isn't good for them and they can't hang onto it or make it a way of life.