Post #2824467
2026-02-27 15:59 UTC
Well I try to stay away from any work relations personally. It sounds like he's innocent about it more than anything. People usually don't share that info specifically because of situations like this. I think it's fine to go for it if you properly like her. I'd ask her to keep it out of work and keep it as a kind of secret relationship at least for the beginning, but he'll hate you even more for it when he does find out.
It kind of sounds like he's got puppy dog love going on. I only know a bit about the situation but I feel like she isn't going to jump in his arms the moment you back off or something. I definitely wouldn't feel bad about it.
There's other things to think about. Are you technically her boss too? That might affect the office gossip.
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@Bread@sh.itjust.works 2026-02-27 16:07
I am not her boss, we are at a similar level in different departments. I don't have to interact with her at all if I didn't want to. If I did date her, the odds of it coming out to him are high. It would just be a matter of when. He would likely notice that she didn't follow through on their date plans.