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> Confiding your love affairs to your boss is such a red flag though. No one does that. Disagree. One can have a "boss", or one can have a "manager." My entire career I've tried to get to know the people around me, my manager, my director, my peers, other random people - everyone I can. I spend a LOT of time with these people, and everything being "professional" 24/7 is draining. We're all real people, with real lives, real interests, hobbies, etc. - and the happiest I've ever been while working is when I was surrounded by people I wouldn't hesitate to call "friends", and that includes discussion personal issues often - maybe not _quite_ as much as I would with say, a friend from high school, but close. Related - I married a 'girl from work' many years ago, and the person who was both our manager when we got together, and still my manager when we had the wedding, was one of my groomsmen. I did not know this man before starting that job, but spending more time with him and interacting with him more than my 'high school friends', by a LOT, over those four YEARS, meant we easily became at least 80% as close as I was with any of my outside-of-work friends. Edit: And I actually just remembered, said manager met his wife at work too! They are still happily married unlike my ex and I (who are happily divorced and have the best/healthiest relationship that we've ever had now.)