Post #2824448

2026-02-27 14:01 UTC

It is certainly interesting, I will give it that. I have not made it known to Jane of my interest other than having our conversations. I am usually slightly flirty when I talk and I am sure she can see that.. As of the moment, I don't think that would be an appropriate question for her unless I were to ask her out and she agreed to talking about it. It is a decent thought though I may persue if we get closer.

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@jwiggler@sh.itjust.works 2026-02-27 14:30

Ahhh...Well, in that case, I think you should quietly ask her out. I personally don't think its wrong of you to do that. I'd keep it on the down low, of course. Who knows, maybe one of you gives the other the ick and it turns out to be nothing more than two platonic coworkers hanging out outside of work (I know, unlikely). If it does develop further romantically, at least you're now out of the love triangle and into a secret romance...which im kinda inclined to think that is better than a perpetually unresolved love triangle. But yeah, its tough. Wishing you good luck!

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@currycourier@lemmy.world 2026-02-27 15:17

I mean you don't necessarily need to ask her out to talk to her about the whole situation, right? Think of it as collaborating together to solve a problem. I feel like in these kinds of situations sometimes just talking to the other person to figure things out helps even from an information perspective, because without talking to them you operate on assumptions about what they are thinking or feeling, and once you do talk to them you know a bit more about what's going on. It can be scary to bring up though. Also, if it were to turn into a relationship, how you can handle complicated situations like this matters, right? Better to start things off on the right foot with a collaborative discussion on solving a problem.

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