Post #2821973
2026-05-19 01:09 UTC
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@hovercat@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2026-05-19 17:28
I think a huge factor in this is that outsiders never see all the inner thoughts and ruminating on it. I can’t tell you how many of my close friends/family say “This came out of nowhere/we saw no signs”, despite there being fairly obvious signs as young as 4, but also an insane amount of repression and masking of those feelings because I saw the attitude my parents had towards queer people, and literally calling my friends slurs behind their back for expressing even the slightest amount of femininity/queerness. Gee, I wonder why you never saw any signs? They expect over the top displays of “transness” and when they don’t see it, they only see the “sudden” change, which usually isn’t even that sudden. I grew my hair out for years beforehand, had experimented with women’s clothes/fashion for a decade at least, and even had some friends who were very “in the know” on trans people who were not shocked in the slightest when I came out, because I was already not particularly masc presenting by the time I came out. The other friends just couldn’t see past the masc persona I had put on, so when that act finally dropped, it was some shocking and sudden revelation to them.
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@captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2026-05-19 19:55
Started at 20, got hormones in under a year after coming out. Been over 10 years, and have had surgery. My regrets are all about not getting to start sooner, that I should have gotten more modern approaches to hrt (reduced spiro and increased estrogen with injections sooner), and how I should’ve learned to be more feminine earlier. I’m alive now, truly and fully. I was just barely surviving before
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@youcantreadthis@quokk.au 2026-05-25 15:14
But what about the regret you could have had for not transitioning you didn't even consider that did you so reckless