Post #2794966

2026-01-19 06:19 UTC

If he were going to physically harm you or your family in any way, he wouldn't be harassing you on the phone. He's legit just trying to scare you. The best approach here is to "grey rock" him, which in this case just means not answering. You said you don't use the home phone so just disconnect whatever device. You said your wife has blocked him so that's sorted. Close your fb account or don't log in or whatever. Call the police and make an actual report to get an actual report number. Here any kind of threat made over a "wire service" is a crime. They may not investigate but that's not the point, in the infinitessimal chance the guy escalates, you want some history. Refresh home security without going nuts. Maybe a ~~ring~~ door camera, make sure window locks are installed. Then just go about your life, but maybe avoid throw down arguments on fb. Edit: don't buy a ring camera.

Replies (4)

@bdama@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2026-01-19 08:42

Please do not buy Ring cameras, Amazons vast surveillance network is a privacy nightmare and is also regularly accessed by ICE and other law enforcement. Eufy cameras can be used with a home base and stay offline, recording to the SD card in the base. Or if you're into it, there are many self hosting options that give you much more control and options.

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@prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2026-01-19 16:37

> If he were going to physically harm you or your family in any way, he wouldn’t be harassing you on the phone. I think it's dangerous to apply logic and reason to these people.

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@captainlezbian@lemmy.world 2026-01-19 16:27

The report number is very important. Cops want to brush off stuff that involves protecting people in my experience, buy having evidence of all this is vital if he starts stalking or something like that. He's unlikely to escalate directly to shooting, but he is at risk of escalation

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@SocialMediaRefugee@lemmy.ml 2026-01-19 17:11

Also if he is threatening a minor then that escalates things legally.

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