Post #2779790
2026-02-09 21:19 UTC
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@woodenghost@hexbear.net 2026-02-09 23:03
The latter and "oppressive" is a fully adequate choice of words. These gender-norms are enforced by punishment, ridicule, abuse and exclusion, often leading to latent trauma, emotional blunting and loss of empathy. It's helps start the cycle of male violence early.
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@CanadaPlus@lemmy.sdf.org 2026-02-09 21:47
Really young kids don't care and mingle freely. It's a learned thing; the latter. Although "oppressive" might be a bit on the strong side.
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@absGeekNZ@lemmy.nz 2026-02-10 06:27
As a father of three boys. This is enforced far more by the mother's of girls than anyone else. My oldest made friends almost exclusively with girls before he was five. Without fail mother's would move their girls away and toward other girls. This happened in a few situations, both structured and unstructured environments. When it was dad's with daughters, it was only about 1/4 of the time, and mums or dad's with sons never did. I have seen it the other way also, where boys were steered to other boys, but it was far less often. I used to go to a men's only yoga class, I was far more comfortable there than in a mixed class. The class was discontinued, not because of lack of interest... but because the instructor got pregnant, it never restarted. She was a great instructor very professional and targeted the exercises to men's problem areas. Men's only spaces are important, as much as women's spaces. Men's mental health is often overlooked, and men's spaces are an easy way for men to vent about shit that is bothering them. Also "our current time" is a little strange, history it's full of segregated spaces, even of just by social convention. Our current time is far more accepting of mixing than a lot of history.
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@mathemachristian@lemmy.ml 2026-02-10 12:46
The latter 100%. Just noticed this with our kid who came home from kindergarden one day and said that he liked playing with friend A there because they're both boys. We asked him why he think that playing with boys is better when you're a boy and, well, that's what friend A said. This never had been a topic before. It's learned behaviour that reinforces gender segregation.