Post #2686261
2026-05-18 10:34 UTC
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@Voroxpete@sh.itjust.works 2026-05-18 11:07
On the one hand, we should always be cautious never to conclude anything about another person’s gender on their behalf. On the other hand, it’s a lot more than one photo. Kurt’s family found a pretty sizeable collection of women’s clothes and makeup in his home. There are multiple interviews where he talks about feeling closer to the feminine side of the human experience or how he always tended to gravitate more towards having female friends, lots of stuff like that. There’s also supposedly an early draft of All Apologies - supposed because the document exists but some people contend the authenticity - with the line “Let me grow some breasts.” None of this is conclusive and should not be read as such, but anyone who has seen someone struggling with their gender is going to have a hard time coming to any other conclusion. Given Kurt’s obvious struggles with self-worth and eventual suicide, it’s hard not to see a painfully familiar pattern playing out here. I disagree with people who posthumously assign him she/her pronouns and insist on categorically stating he was trans - that’s just as much misgendering as it would be to deny a trans person’s identity - but I think it’s a pretty reasonable assumption all told.
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@Draconic_NEO@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2026-05-19 00:41
What I find particularly gross about egg culture is that the people pushing it are making the assessment that a person being GNC is either not possible or that they don’t consider it likely. So they just decided that the person must be trans due to dressing as a woman. Which seems problematic doesn’t it? Yes it is, they, whether they understand what they’re doing or not are essentially using gender stereotypes to guess someone’s internal feeling of gender, under the idea that most people are just conforming to some set of gender stereotypes and ignoring or dismissing the people who don’t conform or care about them.