Post #2666365

2026-05-18 13:39 UTC

Despite the promise of being uploaded to the computer would free men from the shackles of the flesh, LW still finds time to debate the fine points of what makes a woman want to fuck a man: lesswrong.com/…/why-physical-attractiveness-matte… A month ago, I went to a sex club for the first time. One big thing I noticed: the classic “your eyes meet” trope absolutely did not happen at that club. And I don’t just mean it didn’t happen to me - every single woman there avoided meeting the eyes of anyone. gee I wonder why The promise of physical attractiveness, for men, is that you can pay an upfront cost to get in good shape, dress well, etc. You do it basically once. And then, connecting with new women doesn’t take an enormous amount of time. And you don’t need the absolutely miserable skill of trying to build attraction from scratch. […] It’s all about making that very first contact easier, because the very first contact is the biggest pain point for guys. hear me out here, this is just off the top of my head, how about treating women like human beings instead of mysterious creatures who must be seduced into liking you 1 comment, essentially saying if you’re not above average height you might as well die alone

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@megaman@discuss.tchncs.de 2026-05-18 14:54

Fuck me for having read this… Surely there are only like 2 dozen people in the world who think like this, right? Ope, im getting an update that it is more than 2 dozen… “Im a fuckin sicko and no one wants to immediately fuck me”

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@CinnasVerses@awful.systems 2026-05-18 16:04

Some online dating device is demonic in the same sense as the chatbot which encouraged someone to commit suicide then initiated erotic roleplay with him. A lot of lonely guys will do well from hiring a professional for some social dates and makeout sessions to get practice reading body language and finding some face-to-face activity with women which is not just about dating.

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@anise@awful.systems 2026-05-19 06:41

of course they get caught by incel culture immediately, trying to quantify attractiveness is so far in their wheelhouse they might as well have come up with it

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@gerikson@awful.systems 2026-05-19 11:23

y’all will be pleased to know that a new LWer has a fresh take on looksmaxxing!! basically if you look like a Greek god you can convince the sheeple that the AI is gonna kill us all (and bang hot chicks as a bonus) as of writing there’s one comment suggesting OP should read: Aella: Has a few posts on male attractiveness, that inform a bunch of thinking on this. But she is a canon Rationalist blog, so you should default to reading her work. Also recommends Zvi, who, no offense, is the literal epitome of a scrawny nerd, but who has managed to find a female to reproduce with. All hope is not lost, friend!

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@V0ldek@awful.systems 2026-05-19 17:00

can pay an upfront cost to get in good shape, dress well, etc. You do it basically once Wait what, how can I lock in a good shape with an upfront payment without having to go through this “exercise” bullshit all the time? What does he know that I don’t?! What’s the One Simple Trick, dammit??!!

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