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2026-05-01 14:47 UTC

Thank you, O kind and wise internet stranger. What you've said speaks deeply to me about my own self-limiting behaviors when it comes to social interacting at large. I hate to inconvenience anyone so I avoid starting interactions at a cost to my happiness. I'm finding out that I perceive small inconveniences as much larger than they are, while most people perceive small problems more accurately, like you said.

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@ericwdhs@discuss.online 2026-05-01 16:44

I think you got it exactly, and if you expand "social interactions" to include text conversations like this one, a narrow idea of what is "correct" is probably why so many of us here seem to care for good grammar. Going even further, I'd say it impacts any sort of "performance" that might have social consequences of any kind. I've been a perfectionist most of my life to the point that I would avoid trying a lot of things I couldn't reasonably be sure I'd succeed at on the first try. Any failure would also shut me down pretty hard. In other words, other people's "good enough" was my "unacceptable." Only recently did I learn that's common among autists, and it's something I'm still working on.

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@Djehngo@lemmy.world 2026-05-01 15:39

On the bright side calibration is improved through experience, so you will only get better and better at it as you live your life 🙂

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