Post #2421000
2026-04-27 13:47 UTC
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@definitemaybe@lemmy.ca 2026-04-27 22:12
No offense intended, but your comment is intensely ironic, and how common the mindset is that an autistic child is "misbehaving" is *exactly* the problem. The author's children are routinely becoming dysregulated and are then no longer in control of their actions. That's how "red zone" dysregulating is expressed. The child *is a child* and is not responsible for their dysregulation and resulting behavior. There are many possible solutions, but they are all *upstream* from the behaviour. "Behaviour is the symptom, not the problem" (Dr. Becky Kennedy). These children need support with dysregulating triggers: well-trained and present adults need to help identifying triggering stimulus. Sensory? Demands? Bodily needs? Emotional needs? Transitions? Then accommodations need to be made to keep triggers within the child's ability to regulate. These children need support with co-regulation. A well regulated child can handle dysregulating triggers. When the child will be exposed to a dysregulating trigger that's known in advance, like a transition or fire drill, then co-regulate *ahead of* time. And coregulation needs to be practiced, over and over again. It will take thousands of times co-regulating before they are able to self-regulate. These children need support with demands. As with *all* children, demands must be reasonable for their current abilities. This is as true for academics as for "life skills". And, as with all children, when they are becoming dysregulated, demands need to be *decreased*, but often they are *increased* instead (asking them questions, telling them to do something, etc.) In the words of Dr. Ross Greene, "if you're intervening *after* the behaviour, you're late." Focusing on "misbehaviour" misses the point completely. All children have a right to education, and many *many* autistic children in Canada are being denied access to education by a system that is systematically failing them.
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@k0e3@lemmy.ca 2026-04-27 15:29
Does it really matter? Their kids have special needs that aren't being met and I feel like they deserve the opportunity to succeed since the parent pays for education through taxes like any other Canadian. OP also doesn't seem like they're blaming the teachers either: just the system that they pay into is failing them.