In cultures where marriage is a social obligation and arranged marriages are common, marriage feels like those group projects in school.

2026-05-04 23:47 UTC

Omg my parents and my maternal grandma was like: (about my older brother’s marriage thing) “You have to see out more options (in the same timeframe) in case your first match fails” or something… Marriage is like College to them, and their “searching for ‘candidates for marriage’” is like looking at colleges (or perhaps a college processing applications), looking at the person’s profiles, education level, wealth, looks, intelligence, occupation, etc… So weird to be in the sphere of all this lol… They be so busy mom doesn’t even really wanna talk to me… (What the hell is life? Is this what being a human is? Be born, cant do anything for 6 years, then go through 8 hours of school every day till 18, then college, then work, marriage, taxes, children, then onto the graveyard. Yayyy. Pls get me out of this simulation, I’m so bored and tired… 😩 Sorry I got another existential crisis…)

Replies (5)

@realitista@lemmus.org 2026-05-05 00:20

You can always run for the hills!

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@chicken@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2026-05-05 04:05

The trick to those is to appear as lazy and careless as possible, so your project partners will fear a failing grade and do all the work before the deadline instead of hoping that you will do it and everyone fails because no work was done. Not sure how this advice translates to the other side of the analogy though

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@mech@feddit.org 2026-05-05 04:13

Sometimes I think a purposely planned marriage would make more sense than “whoever you got drunk with that one night in college”. (But I’m biased, cause I just got divorced from the woman I got drunk with that one night in college.)

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@Augustiner@lemmy.world 2026-05-05 06:57

I recently read „The death of Ivan Iljych“ by Tolstoy. He asks the same questions about life that you do. Doesn’t really pose any concrete answer of course, I’d be shocked if there was an universal one, but maybe you can find something that helps you find your own in there.

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@InternationalHermit@lemmy.today 2026-05-06 21:19

I don’t support arranges marriages, but single 38 me would love to have someone at least introduce me to some women who match some of my basic requirements in a potential spouse.

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