Post #1961113

@inherentlee I set boundaries causally all the time, but I feel like when someone has good respect for boundaries, they will do consent checks. Consent checks are a green flag, and they are so easy. Some examples for the audience. "May I touch?" While indicating something like my tattoos (surprisingly more common than my hair nowadays) "May I hug you?" "Is it okay if I share your name with friend of mine? They have a similar last name" "Can I talk about your tattoos with a friend? They're pretty witchy and may end up wanting to meet you" Similarly, here are some consent red flags I am quoting from a book I find I keep sharing with people (The Ace and Aro Relationship Guide) > Words: “I don’t have to ask permission.” “I just assumed it was okay.” “But we did this last week/the other night, so I just assumed it’s fine this time.” “I know you said you didn’t want to, but you don’t really mean that.” “I know what you want better than you do sometimes.” “You’re just scared/nervous/unsure. You really want to do this.” > Actions: Continuing to do something after you’ve said no. Persisting in asking after you’ve said no. Exerting pressure on you to change your mind. Exhibiting anger, sadness, or frustration when you do not give consent. Ignoring verbal or nonverbal cues that indicate you are not giving your consent. @aizuchi