Post #1838345

2026-01-13 18:24 UTC

Don’t let them fool you. It’s the fucking best. You love them, they love you. It’s awesome. What makes it bad is not the children, it’s our system build not to cater for it. You have to function like you don’t have extra responsibilities which inevitably creates stress.

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@YeahIgotskills2@lemmy.world 2026-01-13 21:39

Well said. I sometimes moan about my kids when colleagues who don’t have kids ask about it. Perhaps that’s unwise, as I don’t want to put them off. It’s just that there’s no way to tell them how profound and amazing being a dad is. It just doesn’t feel right to tell that to people who haven’t - and indeed may not - experience it. It’s seems almost cruel.

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@abc@feddit.uk 2026-01-14 02:49

Yeah this is the thing, I really enjoy kids and I love my nieces/nephews to bits. However, the structural support seems so lacking for something that’s such a massive responsibility. Lacking for parents/families in general, but particularly mothers IMO. Unfortunately, I genuinely don’t think I’d be able to cope with everything all at once. e.g. I’m lucky to finally be able to afford housing for myself, let alone a child. And they wonder why young people aren’t having kids… 🤷‍♀️

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