@fishidwardrobe@social.tchncs.de
Post #1408666
2026-03-22 23:15 UTC
@jrdepriest cis male here, although i have an unusual relationship with gender that i'll call "gender-meh".
1, 2, 3, 4) i was *told*. at five i was an only child and had no notion of there being anything else than "boy". i did not, of course, think about girls. that i only played with other boys was not a decision on my part; it just happened.
(when the other boys giggled and asked me if i knew the difference between a boy and a girl, i said "long hair". amusing that i was more right than they were.)
5) i imagine i would have accepted it.
6) that would have been deeply upsetting — i'm autistic — but i can't imagine it happening.
7) no idea
8) i played with both. asked for dolls, sometimes.
9) pretty certain i would have ignored that.
10) ooof, that's just *wrong*.
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@jrdepriest@infosec.exchange 2026-03-23 00:27
@fishidwardrobe Ah, the neurodivergent aspect. Autism, in my case, meant I already didn't understand the rules of "how to be human". When I was told "boys don't do that" in response to some of my behavior, I just added that to the list of things I had to mask, like hitting my head against the wall or biting my own hands. I didn't know there were two distinct things at play—autism and gender dysphoria—until I was in my mid-forties.