Post #1348925

Absolutely unsurprising seeing how many folk with kids are firmly in favor of government surveillance and censorship of technology, as long as it *only affects their and other folks' kids* - but not if it affects them! Like I keep seeing posts about "age verification stuff is wrong and immoral! not that we shouldn't be snooping on kids, but that's hard work, y'know, so let's outsource it to the same government that was just abducting kids; they'll make things safer for kids!" Like holy *fuck* y'all grow a spine, and let your kids live their lives. Like what sort of regressive, conservative, puritanical hellscape has Mastodon/Fediverse become, that *surveilling children* has become a reasonable and good parenting and social structuration!? I remember it was *trivial* common-sense that the best way to make sure you destroyed your relationship with your kids, and left them in an antagonistic relationship with the rest of the world, was to break into their diary, or read the notes you might find in their pocket from helping do their laundry. And now doing stuff *FAR* worse is seen as the baseline of non-negligent parenting? I mean sure if you like want to turn yourself into the personal Musk-Trump of your child's life so that they become very experienced at resisting and surviving such horrible things, that's... certainly a choice, but I am not going to call it good fucking parenting. I grew up with "I'm going to abuse you because the world will and you need to be prepared," under the pretense of it being caring and I haven't talked to the people who did that shit in years, and what's truly horrifying is people who treat their kids that same way tell me they hope their kids grow up to be like me. They might! And you'll never know, because you did everything you could to make yourself some sort of ghoulish enemy, rather than provide something the world doesn't: a model of love and care. And what's tragic is you're doing it while believing yourself to be caring, but control and oppression for security and safety aren't fucking care, and if it were ANY other situation except your own kids, you would know that - because you can obviously see that when it comes to *you* being controlled or oppressed.