Post #1319135
2025-01-25 20:49 UTC
@joshsusser I hope your autistic readers realize that is not advice for autistic people specifically, that is great advice for everyone
especially younger folks need to explicitly hear it
though, the younger the higher odds they don't need to hear it cuz they know so that's nice
anyways hearing it explicitly empowers a person to call it out for what it is - which will make the "joker" feel super freaking awkward because as soon as at least 2 people are expressing disdain the recipient *feels it*, and the rest of the crowd - even folks who were laughing a second ago - are very likely to join in, which doesn't just neutralize the bigotry but vaccinates against it. Then everyone knows, make a bigoted joke and there's a risk of getting called out and losing face.
The script I'll try to use is:
"That's bigoted."
"It's just a joke, have a sense of humor."
"By making that joke you're trying to establish that it's fine to act bigoted as long as it's about them."
"It was a joke!"
"It was at best a test to see who you could be bigoted around. We're not here for that."
anyways great advice!
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@joshsusser@autistics.life 2025-01-25 21:36
@datum Yes, this is for everyone (like much of what I write here). I haven't had much success with direct feedback. I like the tactic of asking them to explain the joke and why it's funny. That can trip them up, because then they have to admit what they really mean.
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@cy@fedicy.us.to 2025-01-26 17:04
That sounds kind of cerebral. I'd just say something like "That was not cool, man. You don't really think that (subject of the joke)?" If you're lucky, their answer will surprise you. CC: @joshsusser@autistics.life