Post #131637
2026-01-13 11:37 UTC
Replies (15)
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@Pudutr0n@lemmy.world 2026-01-13 12:02
idk about marrying but I'm in my early 40s and have long term dated a few mothers, some with kids in their late teens. In short, it entails responsibility and tact. Being a recurring kinda-parental / adult figure in a kid's life has an impact on their notion of what adults do, don't do and what kind of adult they aspire to be. This entails responsibility. Forming any kind of meaningful bond then having it go away has an impact on anyone, but on children it can be harsher. If you have a heart you don't mess around with a mother that you're not really interested in and you should only meet their kids if you're serious in wanting something stable/long term. Basically It entails a lot of responsibility that you can either assume or risk making not only the mother's, but some poor kids' lives harder. If you don't care about any of that, that's up to you (but also, you're an asshole). Lots of wonderful women are mothers, though, and many are more than worth the extra care.
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@notsosure@sh.itjust.works 2026-01-13 12:29
I actually married the daughter of my son’s wife, and I can only advise against that construct.
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@gramie@lemmy.ca 2026-01-13 14:09
Was that guy named [Emmanuel Macron](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emmanuel_Macron)? He met his wife when he was 15 and she was 39. He was in a class with her daughter.
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@IWW4@lemmy.zip 2026-01-13 11:53
It will depend on who the two people are and how they handle things. When I met with my future wife she had a son. I fell in love with both of them and after we were married I adopted him. 33 years later we are still going strong. Marriage is marriage man. Dating in an entertainment package Marrying is a partnership to deal with challenges of living. .
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@Nemo@slrpnk.net 2026-01-13 13:34
My wife was a mother already when I married her. Of course, I was the father of her children and we'd lived together for years at that point. But it still counts!
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@Vandals_handle@lemmy.world 2026-01-13 15:00
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mary_Kay_Letourneau Family values behind the Orange Curtain
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@FoolsQuartz@lemmynsfw.com 2026-01-13 11:45
>For example, I once heard a story about how a guy about 17 years old was dating his teacher who had a twelve-year-old daughter, and I heard they got married and had another child. Where was that? Cos I'm getting "Rural America" TBH it would probably be fun unless your step-children are WAY older than you, I figure the guy in your example had it best. And I can't help but think "lucky her" for the teacher mom. There's the argument that you're sacrificing dating people you're own age but some of us just vibe better with older ladies. My English teacher at high school apparently married an ex-student about 1 year after he finished school. Nothing underhanded, they just met up again and struck it up. She was built nicely, like Sofia Vergara.
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@the_crotch@sh.itjust.works 2026-01-13 13:17
> no one involved wants to discuss things in detail If it was my parents and grandma I wouldn't want to hear it
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@Pudutr0n@lemmy.world 2026-01-13 12:05
Umm...
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@frank@sopuli.xyz 2026-01-13 13:10
Roll tide?
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@Philokins@lemmynsfw.com 2026-01-13 13:14
That’s kinda hot, being with a woman _and_ her mom.
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@BaroqueInMind@piefed.social 2026-01-13 13:52
If this isn't bullshit, your dad must have looked like extremely handsome as fuck.
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@qyron@sopuli.xyz 2026-01-13 12:58
We can say everything was kept in the family, that way. Stupid remarks on the side: that must have been really confusing.
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@jubilationtcornpone@sh.itjust.works 2026-01-13 14:11
Is your last name "Braddock" by any chance?
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@Pudutr0n@lemmy.world 2026-01-13 12:29
Well, if he makes nana happy...