Post #1236409
2026-04-11 19:10 UTC
To be a cis man is to learn that being a woman is shameful, to be derided and never emulated.
To be a cis woman is to learn that being a woman is somehow both shameful and obligatory.
To be transfem is the same, but the obligation comes from your own deepest yearnings and is thus extra shameful.
(I won't try to speak to the transmasc experience).
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@Tattie@eldritch.cafe 2026-04-11 19:11
Speaking of shame, let's return to N. It has now emerged that N "wants to be trans", wants to transition, wants to change their name. How many times have I told a fellow transfem: "wanting to be a girl is enough"? That "wanting to be trans is the same as being trans"? I would be a hypocrite to not conclude exactly what I suspected at first glance: N is transfem. 16/