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@erin@piefed.blahaj.zone

2026-09-24 23:48 UTC

Not directly related to the post, but what is it with people getting all pissy when they find out you’re vegetarian/vegan? More than once I’ve had someone act like I told them I punch babies for fun when they find out I don’t eat meat. I don’t bring it up unprompted, it’s always in relation to a dietary concern. For example, I ordered a veggie dish at a restaurant, and they brought me the meat equivalent. I politely let the server know I ordered something else (apologetically I might add, because I feel like I’m being difficult to a service worker even though it’s about a dietary restriction), and she acted like I was out of line. Rolling eyes, huffy, and asked me if I wanted her to take it back (um, obviously?). This has happened to me or friends in various social settings, and I just don’t get it. I even attended a cookout once where the host got mad at me for not eating his burgers. After I responded to the dietary restriction email. And brought my own dish. People act like you’re being a bitch for not eating meat! I’ve never once pushed my diet on anyone or brought it up out of necessary contexts, but people still talk behind my back like I’m being dramatic for not eating things I don’t want to.

Replies (6)

  • @ayyy@sh.itjust.works 2026-09-25 05:05

    It points out how shameful and lazy meat eaters are to their face, and people don’t like having their poor choices pointed out to them.

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  • @Rbnsft@lemmy.world 2026-09-25 05:23

    It is the same when telling people that you dont drink or take other drugs…

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  • @usernamesAreTricky@lemmy.ml 2026-09-24 23:58

    The BBC has a good article on this concept > The tension that results can make us feel stressed, irritated, and unhappy. But instead of resolving it by changing our beliefs or behaviour, it’s quite normal to blame these feelings on something else entirely – all without realising we’re doing it > > In the case of eating meat, Rothgerber suggests we have a number of strategies – around 15 – which allow us to avoid facing up to the meat paradox. These include pretending that meat has no link to animals, imagining that we eat less of it than we really do, wilful ignorance about how it’s produced > > [...] > > Unfortunately, most of these are derailed by the presence of vegans. > >According to Rothgerber, people tend not to think of meat eating as an ideology. The dominance of meat eating around the world helps the omnivores among us to avoid the idea that it’s a choice – it’s just what everyone else is doing. But when a vegan turns up at a dinner party, suddenly we’re bumped out of the comfortable “mainstream diet” category and into the unsettling “meat-eating” category. By their mere existence, vegans force people to confront their cognitive dissonance. And this makes people angry. https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20200203-the-hidden-biases-that-drive-anti-vegan-hatred

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  • @Stolas@lemmy.ca 2026-09-25 05:41

    Hugs. This is why I don’t bring it up to other people.

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  • @SkunkWorkz@lemmy.world 2026-09-25 06:49

    Because your lifestyle choices are an affront to their lifestyle. In many places in the world eating meat is an important part of the culture. Saying that you don’t eat meat is seen as a rejection of the culture. And they will immediately label you as “the other”. It’s like if a person says they are an atheist in a country where everyone is religious and an important part of daily life. Even when the atheist isn’t judging anyone the atheist will receive negative reactions and even violence.

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  • @snarkysadierose@lemmy.world 2026-09-24 23:57

    weirdly ive noticed alot of behavior like this even on lemmy and even in leftist communities on here. people just get really mad when a post even mentions someone being vegan. similarly i see people demonizing people who for riding bikes and i just get so confused at why they are on lemmy (a very leftist platform) if they despise commonly leftist things

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